Love asks us to soften.
yet your body won’t soften until it knows it’s safe.
Hello I’m Nats, a Somatic Intimacy Coach for people who’ve done the work, understand their attachment style, and still find themselves stuck in the same painful loops when it comes to love, dating and relationships.
I help you feel safe enough, in your body, in connection, and with yourself, so that intimacy no longer asks you to abandon who you are.
When your nervous system feels safe, love stops making you feel like a nervous wreck. It becomes something you can stay present for and relish in.
You Might Be Here Because…
You’ve already done the work.
You’ve unpacked your childhood in therapy.
You’ve explored your attachment style.
You’ve tried EMDR, inner child healing, talk therapy, mindset & manifestation techniques, anything that might finally shift the pattern.
You’ve underlined half of Attached, The Body Keeps the Score, or Come As You Are.
You know what your nervous system should be doing, and you’re frustrated that knowing hasn’t been enough to change how it feels.
You’ve said things like:
“I don’t get it. I know better, but I still end up in the same dynamic.”
“Maybe I’m just not built for relationships.”
“What if it’s always going to feel like this?”
You keep bumping up against the same thing.
You open up, and they pull away. Or you finally feel safe, and then suddenly you can’t breathe. You go on the date, but spend the next three days overthinking everything you said. You get close, and then you or they disappear.
And even when you know it’s not about this particular person, it still feels impossible to do it differently.
If that’s you, I want you to know this. There’s nothing wrong with you at all. This is what happens when insight outpaces nervous system capacity.
It’s not that you haven’t done enough, it’s that your body still needs to feel safe enough to try something new.
Why Insight Alone Isn’t Enough
Most relationship advice focuses on what to do like communicate better, set stronger boundaries, choose more securely and stay regulated.
But relationships rarely struggle because you don’t know what to do.
They struggle because your body, your nervous system, learned long ago what closeness meant, and whether it was safe.
That learning doesn’t change just because your mind understands it now.
This is why love can feel like a puzzle you can’t think your way out of.
“What If the Problem Isn’t the Relationship?”
I don’t see relationships as the problem.
I see them as the place where real change becomes possible, not because they’re easy, but because they bring your old protective strategies to the surface, right where they can be seen and softened.
What I Do
I’m a Somatic Intimacy Coach, which means I work with what’s happening in your body, not just the stories you tell about it.
Together, we slow things down enough to notice what happens inside you when love and intimacy approaches.
We get curious about your protective responses, not to override or fix them, but to understand what they’re trying to keep you safe from.
And then we build the internal safety that makes it possible to stay, soften, speak, receive and rest.
This work draws from nervous system regulation, attachment repair, parts work, somatic experiencing and gestalt aspecting; using tools like breathwork, visualization, pleasure and meditation as integration practices. It’s shaped by 800 hours of professional training, lived experience, and years of sitting closely with people in the tender places where love feels most charged.
It’s not about being better at intimacy & relationships.
It’s about feeling safe enough to be yourself within them.
Feeling like you’ve tried everything and still can’t shift the pattern?
A Love Audit helps you see what’s really going on beneath the stuckness, so you can finally move forward in a way that feels safe, not forced.
What This Work Makes Possible
When Anney first reached out, she told me something I hear more often than you’d think:
“I keep being asked how I feel in my body, and I feel… nothing. Just numb. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
She’d done the therapy. She’d sat in ceremony. She’d tried to name the sensations, feel the feelings, drop into her body, and still, it felt like nothing was there. That blankness was both confusing and quietly painful. She told me she wasn’t even sure this work would help… but something in her was curious enough to try.
Over our sessions, something began to soften. Not all at once, but gently, slowly, in a way that felt safe. She started feeling things she didn’t expect. We uncovered responses that had been protecting her for decades. And the shift didn’t stay inside her, it rippled outward.
Here’s how she described the journey:
“I was the one in the room who couldn’t feel anything in my body. I’d been to therapy, done the ceremonies, and still, nothing. I was afraid this wouldn’t work either.
But session by session, something softened. I started feeling things I didn’t even know were there. The way Nathalie guided me, so gently, without pressure, allowed parts of me to come online that I’d long shut down.
I’m calmer now. I pause instead of reacting. My partner has softened too. We talk about our feelings more. There’s more closeness, and for the first time, I feel safe letting it in.”
— Anney, 1:1 Somatic Intimacy Client
What Clients Say
I felt connected with Nathalie. I felt that I could share with her safely what I thought and felt in the moment. Nathalie was very gentle, kind and very good at making me feel seen and heard in a consistent way, even before and in between the sessions, which made me like her a lot not only as a coach but also as a person. I truly enjoyed the experience of sessions with her and I got some valuable insights that stayed with me on a daily basis. Thank you Nathalie!
I deeply appreciated the prudence behind Nathalie's careful selected methods for the exploration of my unconscious. I celebrate the flexibility and adaptability of her guiding techniques & the lovely summary by email for affirmation after each of our sessions. I felt safe and empowered to open up. She inspired me to keep trusting & giving voice to my intuition.
I really appreciated the space that Nathalie created so I was able to open up and connect on a deep level. Also the patience and attention that she showed made me feel that she was really listening to me. I went into her sessions with an open mind and even though I had never done anything like that with a stranger before I was able to surrender and let go of any defenses that I had. I felt a strong connection and it was this that made a strong impact on the results. The space that she created for me was felt almost immediately and remained throughout the entire time. This enabled me to feel the practices and dive into them in a way that I am currently unable to do so on my own.
I appreciated the sweetness of Nathalie’s approach and the follow up mails that made a huge difference. Nathalie helped me discover the strength I have in the energies of the feminine and how to use it in my everyday life. She was clever, warm, caring and sincere and made me feel very connected. The sessions were very well structured, with a clear goal every time and a tangible result.
Nathalie has been wonderful during my grief processing. In particular, I appreciated how I was able to open up in a way that I rarely do with friends and family, and in that process I've discovered a few things about myself that I did not expect. I felt a very strong connection, not only was it therapeutic, it was closer in a friendship manner than my CBT counselling, and closer in terms of talking about each emotion in turn. My counsellor concentrates on my story and the narrative I tell myself, while this was emotional guidance and forcing me to look at some of my core emotions and self beliefs. I revealed things that I'd never told anyone before, which goes to show how trustful the safe space became. I'm glad that I did this process, and I think you were the right teacher for me at this moment of my life!
I entered working with you from a place of curiosity and light-heartedness. You explained that you are a trained coach and not a therapist, and I felt like this was appropriate as I had done quite a lot of work last year from counselling and had got to a secure point with that work. However, the work that we did has been far more insightful and emotional than anything that I've done, including counselling and therapy. I have been vulnerable and delved into depths of my past in ways that I didn't expect and have never done. This is a very good thing because it's the most amount of progress I've made, in my life!
Ways To Work With Me
The Love Audit
The Love Audit is a clarity-based offering designed to help you understand how your nervous system, emotional history, and attachment responses are shaping your experience of love and relationships.
Rather than focusing on behaviours alone, we look at the underlying emotional logic that drives them. The part of you that learned how closeness works, how safety is maintained, and what love requires of you.
In the Love Audit I will walk you through:
The core relational pattern you’re currently repeating.
How this pattern originally formed and what it has been protecting.
The nervous-system responses influencing your reactions in love.
The relational dynamics that keep the cycle in place.
Your attachment tendencies.
What needs to shift emotionally and somatically.
And the missing piece that allows for safer, more fulfilling connection.
This will be perfect for you if you understand the patterns, but you can’t seem to change them, you’re exhausted by how much effort love still takes and you’re longing for softness, safety, and self-trust… but unsure how to get there.
If you’re not yet ready to commit to a long-term coaching process then that’s exactly what the Love Audit is for.
This isn’t a strategy session. It’s not a coaching consult. It’s a spacious, attuned process designed to give you something you might not have had yet:
→ A clear, felt understanding of what’s actually going on beneath the surface and what’s possible from here.
Many people walk away feeling more seen and more hopeful than they’ve felt in years.
And from that grounded clarity, it becomes easier to choose your next step (whether it’s continuing together or not).
If you’re at the place where something needs to shift, but you’re not sure what that looks like yet this is where to begin.
1:1 Coaching using The Love Shift Method™
For those ready to go deeper, I offer 1:1 Somatic Intimacy Coaching, a private, 6 month container where we untangle the deeper relational patterns that insight alone can’t shift.
In our work together, we focus less on “fixing” and more on building the internal conditions that make safety, trust, and presence actually possible.
We move at the pace of your body and we meet what arises together we presence and compassion.
And over time, we build real, embodied capacity to stay connected to yourself and in your relationships, even in the places that used to feel like too much before.
This also isn’t just about relationships.
It’s about trusting yourself again and having the capacity to be with whatever arises in life, without needing to prove anything to anyone.
Most people begin with a Love Audit and let clarity lead the way.
If you already know you’re ready for deeper support, you’re welcome to reach out directly.
Questions you might be holding
How long are the 1:1 sessions? How many do I need?
Each session a 75-90 minute 1:1 session, held on Zoom. That gives us enough space to go deep while keeping the process gentle and grounded. The full program includes 12 sessions. One off sessions are only provided after the full program is completed.
Do I need to prepare anything?
No prep required. You’ll receive a short intake form beforehand, just to help you settle in and for me to understand a bit about where you’re at. But you don’t need to come with answers, goals, or the “right” language, just bring yourself.
What happens during the session?
We begin by getting clear on what’s been feeling stuck or confusing in your relational experience. Then we gently explore what’s happening underneath through somatic inquiry, nervous system awareness, and attuned reflection. You’ll leave with clarity, not a to-do list.
Will this open something I can’t handle?
This work is designed to be titrated, meaning we stay within your window of tolerance. Nothing gets forced and nothing is rushed. I’ll guide you with care and attunement, and you’re always in choice.
What’s the difference between the Love Audit and ongoing coaching?
The Love Audit is a standalone session, perfect if you’re not sure whether you want (or need) ongoing support yet. 1:1 coaching is a longer-term container where we build real capacity over time. The Audit is often the first step to see if we’re a good fit for that deeper work.
What if I don’t have the “right” words for what I’m feeling?
That’s completely okay, it’s incredibly common. You don’t need polished language or perfect self-awareness. This work actually helps you find those words, slowly, from a place of safety.
What if I’ve already tried somatic work and it didn’t help?
Somatic work isn’t one-size-fits-all. If it didn’t help before, chances are your body was being asked to go faster than it felt safe to. This space is slower, more attuned. We move at your pace, not a protocol.
What if I don’t know how to feel things in my body?
You don’t need to know. Many people arrive here feeling numb, shut down, or unsure what’s “supposed” to happen. That’s not a problem, it’s actually part of the work. We begin right where you are.
I’m not in a relationship. Does this still apply?
Yes. This work isn’t about fixing your current relationship, it’s about creating the internal safety and capacity that changes how you relate, whether you’re dating, partnered, or choosing space.
What if I’m scared this won’t work either?
That fear makes sense, especially if you’ve tried everything already. You’re not alone in that. You don’t have to be certain. Just curious enough to take one step.
Why Work With Me
I didn’t come to this work because relationships were easy for me.
I came here because they were the places that undid me, where I felt the most vulnerable, the most reactive, the most unsure how to stay connected to myself.
Like many of my clients, I went to therapy, I read the books. I could name every pattern and still fall into the same familiar shutdown, the same over-giving, the same self-abandonment when love felt just slightly out of reach.
What I needed wasn’t more insight.
It was a space where my body could unlearn what it had been bracing against for years.
That’s what I now offer others.
My work is grounded in professional training, including an 800 hours certification in the VITA™ Method, and extensive nervous system and trauma training with Linda Thai, whose work has deeply shaped my understanding of somatic safety and emotional capacity.
But beyond the training, what shapes this space most is how I sit with people.
Not as someone who’s figured it all out, but as someone who knows the terrain intimately.
I don’t offer quick fixes.
I offer a different way of being met.
This is a space where you don’t need to perform.
Where you’re not expected to be “healed” to be worthy.
Where your responses, even the messy, inconvenient, confusing ones, are not problems to be solved, but signals to be listened to.
You don’t have to be anywhere other than where you are.
And you don’t have to go it alone.
A Gentle Invitation
If something in you softened while reading this, if your body exhaled, even a little, trust that.
You don’t need to push yourself into change. and you don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need a space where your system can feel safe enough to try something new.
When you’re ready, I’m here.
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"The true meaning of alchemy is “Solve et coagula” or dissolve & coagulate. This describes the action of separating and joining together, which is to say that nothing new can be built if not before we make space, untangling the old."
Tomás Mayo & Laura Valor
I felt very seen, felt and heard by Nats as my coach. I felt that she was very open and focused on my experiences. She was very present, grounded, mindful, focused, calm. We really dove in and went pretty deep in our sessions which I loved. I cannot wait to work with her again!!