The Love Shift Method™

For the woman who’s successful in life… but still struggling in love.

The Love Shift Method™ 

A gentle, grounded, and powerful journey from anxious patterns to secure, soul-deep love.

You’re smart, self-aware, and you’ve done the work.
And yet, when it comes to relationships?

  • You overthink every text.

  • You fall for men who give you just enough to stay hopeful, but not enough to feel secure.

  • You give so much… and still feel unchosen.

  • You’re tired of being told you’re “too much” or feeling like you’re never enough.

If you’ve ever felt this way, I want you to know:
You are not broken.
You are not the problem.
You are living with what I call The Love Deficit™.

 

what is the Love Deficit™

The Love Deficit™ is what happens when, growing up, love felt:

  • Inconsistent
  • Conditional
  • Distant
  • Or overwhelming

Especially from your father or early male authority figures.

This early emotional experience quietly shapes how you relate to men, how you see yourself, and what you believe you’re worthy of in love.

 

 

When You’re Living With a Love Deficit™...

It doesn’t just affect your relationships.
It shows up everywhere.

In Love & Dating

  • You’re either all in… or completely shut down
  • You fall fast, but it rarely feels mutual
  • You feel like you’re always giving more than you receive
  • When they pull away, you panic, but when they get close, you push them away
  • You overanalyze every message, every silence, every “what did I do wrong?”

In Body & Mind

  • You can’t relax. You’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop
  • You feel anxious and hyper-aware of how others feel about you
  • You perform, accommodate, or “cool girl” your way through relationships
  • Rest feels unsafe. Stillness feels like failure.
  • You’re tired… all the time.

In Your Self Worth

  • You constantly ask yourself, “Why do I keep ending up here?”
  • You don’t feel safe being seen as you are, so you hide, shrink, or overachieve
  • You question your value if someone isn’t validating it
  • You doubt your intuition and dismiss your own needs
  • You’ve done the mindset work, the books, the journaling… but nothing really sticks

My story with the Love Deficit™

I didn’t have the words for it at the time.
All I knew was that love made me anxious.

I’d get attached quickly.
Pour all of myself into someone within weeks — emotionally, physically, energetically.
Then I’d wait. Obsess. Overthink every message. Re-read texts until my eyes blurred.

I felt like I was always one wrong move away from being abandoned.
And when they pulled away, which they always did, it felt like I was crumbling from the inside.

I’d tell myself,
“You’re too much.”
“No one stays.”
“Maybe you just aren’t meant for love.”

But the truth? I was never too much. I was living in the Love Deficit™,  and I didn’t even know it.

Growing up, my relationship with my dad was inconsistent.
He was physically there till age 8… and then he wasn’t. He was emotionally absent.
Sometimes loving. Sometimes distant. Sometimes completely unreachable.

That early experience shaped everything.
I learned love was something you had to earn.
That being quiet, helpful, agreeable, maybe even perfect, might make someone stay.

And that pattern followed me for years.
Into relationships where I shrank.
Into situationships where I gave my body hoping to feel chosen.
Into late-night spirals where I convinced myself I was the problem.

Nothing I tried helped long-term. Not talk therapy, not “thinking positive,” not manifesting.
Because the problem wasn’t just in my head.

It was in my body.
It was in my wiring.
It was in the very way I related to love.

And that’s what led me to create the Love Shift Method™,  not just as a coach, but as a woman who desperately needed a new blueprint for love.

This method didn’t just help me understand why I felt this way, it helped me actually shift it.
From within.
In my body.
In my patterns.
In the way I relate, receive, and respond.

Now, love doesn’t scare me.
I don’t spiral over messages.
I don’t over-give or abandon myself to be kept.

I don’t just talk about self-worth… I live it.

And that’s what I want for you, too.

The Love Shift Method™

The Love Shift Method™ is a guided journey to gently heal the core patterns keeping you stuck in love, so you can feel safe, empowered, and truly worthy of the kind of relationship that meets you.

This is not surface-level self-love talk.
This is deep, body-based emotional healing that changes how you show up in love…for good.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Stop repeating the same painful dating dynamics
  • Speak your truth without fear of losing love
  • Stop the anxious spirals and start trusting yourself
  • Set boundaries without guilt
  • Attract partners who respect, see, and support you
  • Actually feel safe being soft, open, and fully seen

This is for you if...

  • You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men
  • You fall fast… and feel unsteady the whole way down
  • You only feel good when you are validated by men
  • You sleep with him too quickly, then later regret it
  • You constantly question your worth when someone pulls away
  • You’re “the strong one” for everyone else, but feel alone in love
  • You think you are destined to be alone for the rest of your life
  • You feel you can do everything by yourself but secretly crave the love & support of another
  • You’re tired of repeating the same story, and finally ready to change it

In the Love Shift Method™...

Here’s how we gently walk you from anxious love… to anchored love.

This isn’t about changing who you are.
It’s about understanding why love has felt so hard, and learning how to feel safe being fully yourself.

In this 5 step process, here’s what we’ll move through together:

1. ROOT

We start at the beginning. The real beginning.

Before you ever swiped, texted, chased, or shut down…
There was a blueprint.

And most women never get the chance to explore what really shaped the way they love. In this step, we gently peel back the layers and trace your current patterns back to the source. Your earliest experiences of love, especially with your father or male caregivers.

You’ll explore:

  • What love felt like growing up
  • How emotional connection was (or wasn’t) modelled to you
  • The silent rules you internalized about being wanted, chosen, or enough

This is not about blame. It’s about understanding, so you can finally stop fighting yourself.

2. REVEAL

We bring the unconscious patterns into the light.

Once you’ve uncovered the root, we begin noticing how that template still runs the show, often in sneaky, everyday ways.

Like:

  • Why you second-guess every text you send
  • Why you panic when someone pulls away
  • Why you feel like you love “too much” and still aren’t chosen

We’ll bring those patterns into the light, with gentleness and zero shame.
Because the moment you see them clearly, you begin to separate you from your coping.

3. RECLAIM

This is the turning point.

You don’t need to become someone new. You need to return to the version of you that was never broken in the first place.

Here, we begin to:

  • Reconnect with your truth — your needs, desires, and inner voice
  • Practice saying what you actually mean (without fear)
  • Learn how to stop abandoning yourself when love feels at risk

This is where the woman inside you who always had to make herself small… begins to take up space again, in love, and in life.

4. REWIRE

Now we shift from knowing → to embodying.

This is where things get real, and where the spiral finally loses its grip on you.

You’ll learn:

  • What to do in the moment when anxiety hits
  • How to self-regulate when someone pulls away
  • How to trust your body and calm your mind without running or overreacting

This is practical. Tangible. Life-changing.
No more white-knuckling your worth. No more waiting for their text to feel okay.

5. RISE

Now you become the woman you were always meant to be.

You’ve rooted, revealed, reclaimed, and rewired…
Now? You rise.

This is where it all clicks into place.
Not because everything outside of you is perfect, but because inside, you’re steady. You trust yourself. You choose love, but you never abandon yourself for it again.

You’ll leave this process:

  • Calm in your body
  • Clear in your voice
  • Certain of your worth
  • Calling in the one that’s finally here to stay

You don’t have to pretend to be confident anymore.
You are.

The Love Shift Method™  changes everything

This isn’t a mindset hack.
This is a full-body remembering of your worth.

After this work, you’ll begin to notice:

in your body...

  • You feel calmer, clearer, and more anchored
  • You don’t spiral over silence or slow replies
  • You trust your gut again, and follow through on it
  • You breathe easier, sleep deeper, and stop living in emotional overdrive

in relationships

  • You speak up without fear of being “too much”
  • You stop chasing people who drain you
  • You attract healthier, more available partners
  • You honour your needs without guilt or apology
  • You don’t beg to be chosen, because you’ve chosen yourself

in who you are

  • You finally feel like you’re home in yourself
  • You no longer mistake intensity for intimacy
  • You’re soft, strong, and unapologetically worthy
  • You trust yourself to hold, love, and protect your own heart
  • You experience peace in love, for maybe the first time in your life

I'm ready to experience a love shift

Book your connection call
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Emma's story

From Spiraling & Over-Giving to Peace Clarity & Real Love

(Shared with permission. Name changed for privacy.)

When Emma messaged me, she wrote:

“I know he’s not good for me. But I still panic when he doesn’t text back.”

She’d just come out of another messy situationship. The kind that drags on for months without going anywhere. One day, he’d be full of sweet words and deep chats. The next, she wouldn’t hear from him for three days. No explanation.

“He’ll go quiet, then pop up again like nothing happened… and I let him. Every time.”

Emma wasn’t confused. She knew something wasn’t right.
But she felt hooked.
She hated how anxious she felt, how she overanalyzed everything she said, and how her whole day could be ruined by one cold text (or no text at all).

She told me on our first call:

“I’ve done the therapy. The self-help books. I even made a vision board last full moon. But when it comes to men… I just lose myself. I hate it.”

The worst part? She kept blaming herself.

“Maybe I am too much. Or maybe I just attract the wrong ones.”

What she didn’t know was that she wasn’t broken. She was living in what I now call the Love Deficit™.

Emma grew up with a father who was there, but not really there.
He didn’t yell or leave. He just… checked out. Emotionally cold. Distracted. Dismissive.

And what Emma learned as a little girl was this:
If you want love, you better work for it.
Be helpful. Be good. Don’t ask for too much. Don’t be a burden.

And without even realizing it, she was carrying that same template into her adult relationships — trying to be enough to make someone stay.

The Shift

When Emma stepped into The Love Shift Method™, she didn’t just gain insight. She started to feel different. She moved through the process step by step, gently and at her own pace.

ROOT
She connected the dots between her past and present.

“I didn’t realise how much I was trying to win the love I never got as a kid.”

REVEAL
We shone a light on her anxious texting, over-apologizing, and fear of being “too much.” Not as flaws, but as protection.

“It was like suddenly all my messy patterns had a reason. I wasn’t crazy. I was hurting.”

RECLAIM
She started honoring her own needs. Saying what she actually felt, even if her voice shook.

“I said ‘no’ to a guy for the first time in years… and didn’t feel guilty.”

REWIRE
We worked with her body, not just her mind. So she could stay calm when someone pulled away instead of spiraling.

“I didn’t even know I could feel this steady. I used to go from zero to panic. Now… I breathe.”

RISE
Emma no longer needed to perform to feel worthy. She stopped chasing love and started attracting respect.

“Now I only say yes when I actually want to. That alone changed everything.”

where she is now

Emma’s not perfect — she’s human. But she’s whole.
She’s dating someone grounded, open, and emotionally available.
But more importantly? She’s emotionally available to herself.

She no longer waits by the phone.
She doesn’t blame herself when someone ghosts.
And she doesn’t try to earn love anymore.

Because she finally knows —
She was never too much.
She just needed to feel safe enough to be seen.

And now she does.

This is what happens when you shift the root — not just the surface.
This is what happens when you stop fighting for love and start receiving it.

This is what’s waiting for you inside The Love Shift Method™.

Are you ready?

I'm ready to experience a love shift

Book your connection call
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what women are saying

"Okay so, something really weird happened and I realised it’s actually not weird at all, just new. This guy didn’t reply for like... 8 hours and I didn’t lose it like I normally do. I noticed the part of me that wanted to freak out and check his stories, and I just... sat with it. Made tea. Took a walk. Didn’t panic. That’s never been me. I actually felt safe being in the unknown. Like, who even am I right now?"
Lisa Jones34
"I had this moment yesterday where I said no to a date. Not because I was scared or testing him or playing games. I just genuinely didn’t feel like going. And I didn’t apologise or explain. I just said, ‘Hey, I’m staying in tonight. Let’s reschedule.’ It felt like I was honouring myself in a way I never have before. I didn’t even overthink it. That felt... huge."
Melanie Stone30
"Honestly, I’m not rushing into relationships anymore. I used to get so excited and anxious and obsessed with potential. Now I’m like… let’s see. Let’s take it slow. It’s not from fear, it’s from trust. I’m finally dating from a place of ‘I choose you if you align with me’ instead of ‘please choose me.’ I didn’t know I could feel that grounded."
Samantha Higgins39
"You’ll laugh but, I went on a date last weekend and halfway through I was like, ‘Nope. This isn’t it.’ And instead of powering through or pretending, I excused myself, went home, and felt peaceful. I didn’t question if I was being rude. I didn’t call my best mate crying. I didn’t need closure. I just knew. That’s what this work did. It gave me my knowing back."
Simone Daniels41
"Do you remember how I used to try and fix everyone? Like full therapist mode? I don’t do that anymore. My new guy tried to vent the other day and I literally said, ‘That sounds hard. Do you want to talk about it or just be held in it?’ And then I stopped talking. I didn’t offer 15 solutions. I let it be quiet. It felt... really loving. For both of us."
Natasha Spence33
"So, I cried the other night, and I didn’t hide it. I was with my partner, and instead of turning away or trying to explain, I just let myself be in it. And he held me. Like really held me. I don’t think I’ve ever let anyone do that. I always thought I had to keep it together. But this time I didn’t. I let myself fall apart a little. And it was beautiful."
Kristina Manning46
"I used to call my friend after every date asking, ‘Do you think he likes me?’ And now I’m asking myself, 'Do I like him? Do I feel good around him? Do I trust how I feel after we hang out?’ And if the answer’s no, I just... let it go. No drama. No panic. No overexplaining. It’s like I flipped the script. Finally."
Sophie Miller37
"I realised something wild today: I haven’t gone down a text obsession in weeks. No rereading, no screenshotting, no decoding tone. I’m not clinging to every word looking for signs. It’s like I finally believe I’m lovable, so I’m not searching for proof 24/7 anymore. I didn’t know life could feel this quiet and this good."
Elena Ridge42
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you are not too much

you are not too late

you are just one shift away

This is about coming home to yourself.
To your voice. Your needs. Your knowing.

You’re not meant to beg for love.
You’re meant to receive it.

how you can work with me

The love shift circle

A group journey to gently unravel the Love Deficit™ and rise into real, healthy love… together.

This is for the woman who’s tired of love feeling like a guessing game.
 She’s done spiraling over text messages.
 She’s ready to feel calm, confident, and secure, but she doesn’t want to do it alone.

This is where we gather, reflect, and shift… together.

whats included

✅ 10 live group coaching sessions with me (75 mins each)
 ✅ The full Love Shift Method™, taught step-by-step in a safe, supportive circle
 ✅ Bonus live Q&A and coaching call for additional support
 ✅ Lifetime access to your Love Shift Vault — replays, worksheets, guided practices
 ✅ Private community space to connect, be witnessed, and grow alongside others
 ✅ Optional 1:1 support upgrades for deeper integration.

investment

£1,200 early bird (until 21st June 2025)
£1,500 full price (from June 22nd till course start date)
 or
 3 x £535 monthly payments

waiting list now open

→ Be first in line:

Email natsalchemycoaching@gmail.com with subject: “Circle Waitlist”

The deep shift

A private 1:1 journey for the woman who’s ready to go deeper, faster, and more personally than a group container allows.

This is for you if:
 ✔ You’ve done the reading and the therapy… but the pattern still lives in your body.
 ✔ You want to stop performing, pleasing, or spiraling in love… for good.
 ✔ You’re ready for tailored, sacred support to help you fully shift into a woman who feels safe, grounded, and fully worthy of real love.

This is where the real unraveling, and rebuilding, begins.

what's included

✅ 10 x 75-minute 1:1 coaching sessions (over 5 months)
 ✅ Lifetime access to The Love Shift Method™ online portal
 ✅ Voice note support between sessions — for mid-week integration or when you’re spiraling
 ✅ Personalized somatic practices + inner inquiry prompts based on your specific Love Deficit™ patterns
 ✅ Integration tools and resources to keep the shifts embodied and lasting
 ✅ Priority booking access for any future retreats or live events

investment

£3,500 pay-in-full
 or
 3 x £1,200 monthly payments

which path is right for you

You’re ready to heal the Love Deficit™.
 You feel the pull. You’re tired of the patterns.
 But you might be asking yourself…

Do I need 1:1 support, or will a group journey be enough for me?

Here’s a gentle guide to help you find your way:

the love shift circle

Best for you if…

✅ You feel comforted by knowing you’re not alone in this
 ✅ You want to learn the Love Shift Method™ with other women who “get it”
 ✅ You thrive in a group space where you can witness others and be witnessed
 ✅ You’re just starting this journey and want structured support
 ✅ You’re ready to be gently held, supported, and seen — but not pressured

You want to stop spiraling, start trusting yourself, and shift your relationship with love, in sisterhood.

You’ll leave this circle with:

  • The 5-step Love Shift framework fully integrated.
  • A new emotional blueprint for love

     

Tools to self-regulate, stop self-abandoning, and finally feel chosen by you.

To join the waiting list:

Book a connection call here or…

Email: natsalchemycoaching@gmail.com with subject: Circle Waitlist.

the deep shift

Best for you if…

✅ You’ve done a lot of surface work already but the patterns keep repeating
 ✅ You desire deeper emotional intimacy and direct, personal support
 ✅ You’re ready to explore specific childhood imprints or complex love trauma
 ✅ You’re not just looking to shift how you date, you’re ready to shift how you relate
 ✅ You know you want to go deep, fast, with full attention on your story

You want a sacred space that’s entirely yours. To unravel, be held, and finally rewrite your love story from the root.

You’ll leave this journey with:

  • A deeply embodied shift in how you show up in love
  • Confidence, clarity, and self-worth you don’t have to perform for
  • Practical tools and nervous system support that actually work

To Apply: Book a connection call here

still unsure?

That’s okay.
 Healing doesn’t have to be rushed. It just has to be true.

Book a call with me here, or email with where you’re at. I’ll help you choose the path that fits your story, your pace, and your heart.

Because this work isn’t about fixing yourself.
 It’s about remembering you were never broken.

Let’s shift it together.

Nathalie Gaglione
Creator of The Love Shift Method™

Book your connection call

A free 30 minute session for you to discover more about me, the methodology and the programs. We shall also explore what your desires are for coaching and if we are a good match to work together. This will also be a great opportunity for you to ask any questions about working with me and what to expect. Don’t forget to check your spam!

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